what with the cacophony of social media noise rambling on and on about it, i decided to add to the “wet-market” yabber.
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its valentines day, and you’re either “FOREVER ALONE SINGLE FOR LIFE OH MY GOD”, or, “OMG MY BOYFRIEND SURPRISED ME AT MIDNIGHT!! *insert instagram photo of roses/chocolate/asofttoy/etc*”.
and bring on the hashtag sprees: #valentinesday #foreveralone #singlesawarenessday #iloveyou #forever #sweetest
everyone knows someone who’s grumpy/mopey/whiny/depressed/elated/excited/thrilled and announcing it on their pages for all and sundry to read.
AND, we all know others who are going “oh my god i dont fucking care if you’re forever alone or madly in love shut the fuck up its just valentines day and i dont care if its valentines day.”
well if you possess social media accounts(or addiction), you only have yourself to blame. because you log on at christmas/aprilfools/halloween/newyears to get the same shit, on different days.
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i’m not going to hate the lovers or the single and moping. nor am i going to hate the hype. i am going to EMBRACE it. because there has been a sudden lull in my pre-period angst.
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i’m taking ALL sides when i say that couples, if you need a day to make your significant special other feel special, YOU GOT IT WRONG. everyday should feel like valentine’s day blahblahblah.
YET, everybody knows no relationship is a “my little pony/carebear” episode. love does not come easy, it does not stay easy, it does not grow easy, it does not last easy.
so lovers, maybe valentine’s day is enough validation for you to buy each other exorbitant gifts, or send a little more candy coated text messages; but most importantly, take today’s joy/fun/laughter as a reminder of how things should be most of the time.
you dont have to have a perfect/fightfree relationship to have a fulfilling/lasting/healthy relationship. (the more dirt you sweep under the carpet, the more chances of a choke-fest when you beat it after a long while. and choking to death would not be pretty.)
shit is going to fuck up and down. but its in the acceptance and forgiveness of each other that will allow you both a shot to flourish into forever.
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every single who is extra aware of their relationship status (or lack thereof) today, turn that frown upside down and take comfort in the fact that, as the king of pop says, “you are not alone”.
maybe you dont have your romeo, or you’re missing your juliet.
but what about the rest of your comrades? your bros? your chums? your homies?
are all of them taken?
you still have your family.
the people who will unconditionally love you, always, and be there for you no matter what.
so yes, you may be ‘alone’ on valentines day. but no, you are not completely alone because people whom you love, and who love you are right outside the door of your room.
dont beat yourselves up about it. love will always find a way. someway, and somehow.
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lastly, the fist-shaking on social sites are a force of their own. a force to be reckoned with.
i’d recommend the shutdown of your laptops, a cup of tea, a good book, and some fags to tide you over this current wave. this too, shall pass. HAHAHA.
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cliché tumblr quote aside,
i’d like to thank all my readers, my loyal followers who keep refreshing the page now and then in the hopes that a nugget of random mel-dom will pop up.
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and also, as much as a riot is going on in my brain right now, i dont feel like talking about it just yet. maybe soon, maybe here, or maybe not. we’ll see.
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i close this by saying that on this day i wish everyone a hug and happiness.
happy valentines day darlings.
♥
melly.
